“Happy Anniversary!
You registered on WordPress.com 1 year ago!
Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!”
I got this notification yesterday.It’s been an year I am blogging. I started this blog, to make it a habit to write regularly, to introspect, and to share my lessons learnt with my friends, fellow bloggers and the world. Truly, I never thought about getting traffic on my blog, nor I worked on SEO.
I write, for myself, about anything , any person or any incidence that inspires me. When I started this, I thought of it as a digital diary, an open book where I can pen down anything. Many people are into personal blogging, so I never expected much about the followers and comments, though now I write few self-help and inspirational articles too.
But every writer wants feedback and encouragement. I got both 🙂 As of today I have 101 blog followers, and including comment follows and publicize, total 833 followers. Also, many WhatsApp followers too, who care to open the links I send them, read and honestly comment.
I met some great people on the blogosphere too. I feel connected to them while reading their posts. They give me support and inspiration.
I don’t think I am a great writer, I write in simple, plain English. But one thing I have realized is that I can express, and relate to many people through my posts.
The sentences, “Hey you haven’t posted from a long time”, “No new blog post” , shows that people read my posts and like them too 🙂
I want to thank everyone, who encouraged me, supported me, appreciated and gave suggestions. It all matters a lot. Every little like, comment, follow, suggestion makes me a little more happy.
Last, but not the least, WordPress, without which it wouldn’t have been possible. I gained lot of encouragement because of WordPress too, particularly the trophies.
One of my friends asked me to reflect my thoughts on why people don’t believe in themselves. I wanted to write this post since so long , but couldn’t for some reason or other . Better late , than never..
Why is it that we are not confident about something ? Why do we think “we can’t do it ” ? Why cannot we gain the trust within ourselves that we can do it ?? I know many people who have all the potential to be successful, to give their best, but still can’t do it up to the mark , and degrade their performance, reason being lack of confidence, trust, belief in themselves.
We fear the outcome:Â Most of the time, anticipation of the end result , the final outcome troubles us, not the task. In this way, we lose focus , ultimately diverting our mind and losing concentration.
Underestimating one’s potential: Even if we are capable, we have all the required knowledge,skills, abilities, we underestimate ourselves. Particularly the females, we never give ourself the respect and belief we deserve.
Trusting others than ourself: We won’t trust ourself, our capabilities ,but would rather trust our friends, relatives and others. Remember, the most true and best friend one can have is , ourself.
We want others to believe in us: Accept it or not, somewhere we seek the trust and faith others have in us. That’s the reason we keep asking others , ” Can I do it ? ” , ” You think I will do it fine ” etc.
If taken positivitely its good. Atleast we should trust the trust others have in us 😉
We are all aware of all the above mentioned things , yet fail to believe ourself. Nobody is perfect , still nothing is impossible.
You are unique in your own way, no one ,nothing can do your roles , responsibilities as perfectly as you can . No one can ever replace you
Value of weekend is realized only when we enter the corporate world. In college, we enjoy everyday, every moment. But things change in the professional world.
Even though, I am very new to the corporate world, just a management intern, I am getting a feel of it. This weekend was one of the best weekend I had since my Internship started. I met my closest friends, went for a sleepover at my college bestfriend’s place and met many wonderful people at Bloggers meet. The meet was a great experience and I gained insight into various aspects of blogging. I was away from home continuously for 33 hours, but it was worth it.
I had a conversation with my friend, regarding personal and professional life balance, and how to manage both. Here are some of the points which we concluded, may be helpful to my other friends and fellow bloggers –
Plan your weekends:
We need to spend them very carefully as it’s the only time we can give to our family, friends and ourselves. Just as we plan our daily tasks in office, we should plan weekends and try giving time to maximum activities efficiently.
Set your Priorities:
Be clear about whom you really want to meet, who value you, and desire to meet you. Don’t commit to everyone, as it will only add load to your weekend timetable 😉
Never try to please everyone:
This is the biggest mistake we commit. Remember one who pleases all remains displeased himself.
Don’t forget yourself: Think about others, but don’t ignore yourself.
Stick to your goals. Ultimately personal growth and satisfaction matters the most.
Value Relations:
Work and learning is important but relationships need to be valued. Give them quality time and space too. Otherwise there will be a point when we become frustrated and it will eventually affect work too.
Try not to delay things because of lack of time,the right time to do something is now!! As we all know, life is too short to live with regrets.
Without any expectations, I gave it a try. To my surprise, after the first wash itself, my hair felt light and smooth. The conditioner made my hair so silky , soft that it seemed like a total salon experience. The hair looked set, neat and lustrous. I played with my hair, in front of the mirror. Earlier, I din’t even liked touching the ends of my hair, but I observed even the endings felt softer than before. However I could still see the splits, but I decided to be patient till the next few washes…
Second Wash:
Hoping for better results, I tried it for the second time, four days after the first wash. The results made me happy again 🙂 I noticed fair improvement in the texture of my hair. My splits were visibly reduced, not vanished. But they looked tamed and much better !! This time, I also observed that my hair became more manageable and they stayed neat, as if I have just stepped out of a salon ( Just as the product claims !! )
The amazing results made me continue the shampoo and conditioner. Wash after wash, my hair looked healthier with lesser visible split ends. To ensure that it’s not psychological and I am believing with the product’s claims, I started asking my friends whether my hair is damaged , or do I need a hair cut. I asked about ten of my friends, and everyone replied that my hair is perfect and Is should grow them !!
Narendra Modi’s victory , or rather India’s victory , has led to waves of happiness, hopes and anticipation of betterment. No, I am not going to write ‘Ab ki Baar… ‘ slogans or about hopes of change. Social media is already buzzed with it.. I obviously want the change to occur, India wants change and hence the decision.
People need to change first, specially the youth. There is a lot to learn from Modi’s life, from his story, and from his future plans… Implementing those learnings in our life, will help us become better people, better citizens and ultimately will help build a nation of energized and optimistic youth.
Some of the lessons that should be taken from Narendra Modi’s life are:
Optimism:
He is always optimistic regarding India’s future. He strongly believes that changes will take place. ”In 5 years, India will be a better nation ” shows the positivity in his attitude. When someone can be so confident about the condition of the country and his capabilities to do so, why do we doubt ourselves for even simple tasks! Its the positivity which gives us energy to reach our goals.
Find a goal and follow it;
Identify what makes you happy, what do you actually want to do in life. It can be as broad a goal like ” I want to do something for the country” . Once realized, narrow it down and find a path towards it.
Its fine if we dont know what we want from life, Modi wandered in the Himalayas, leaving family and home behind in search of finding a goal !
Turning Adversity into Opportunity:
This trait is very evident in our PM, from a tea seller at Vadnagar station, to the PM, it shows that he took all the unpleasant situations as an opportunity.
Dare to Dream:
Whatever be the present situation, always have a dream. However impossible may it seems but real winners are those who have a dream. Narendra Modi dared to dream inspite of the adverse situations, he dint go by the conventional path , and joined RSS and began his political career.
True Success is not a matter of few days
Narendra Modi’s story is another big example that there are no shortcuts to success. Success comes with struggle, failure, hardwork and perseverance. Also that success is not easy and it may take years for one’s actual dream to get fulfilled.
We , the youth wants instant success , we want high initial packages, we want our own house, car and what not, in very less time!! And these desires when not fulfilled, we are filled with disappointment and regrets. We search for happiness in materialistic things. And in this pursuit of happiness, we tend to forget our dreams, goals and passions. The number of dissatisfied or unemployed engineers and doctors is an evidence of this…
Hoping for a better youth and a stable economy…lets learn something from today’s hero…
She would sense a problem before anyone or anything else in the world could, she will be the best critic, yet the best and constant supporter. No matter how worst any situation is , her support will make us feel that everything will be alright. A mother is a unique species on this planet , having powers superior to a normal human. Everyday should be mother’s day , every day she should be acknowledged how special she is , because its not a single day she devotes to her children , she devotes her full life for the happiness of her kids. However big we think we have become ,for our Mom , we will always remain the little child who needs the same care , love and support throughout.
Its amazing how my Mom identifies that I am hiding something from her, and even one or two guesses and she will also come to know what is it that I am hiding. The best solution for my problem will be ready altogether. All my secrets are safe with her, in fact there can be nothing hidden from her. My mom knows all of my friends, the ones who are very close to me , the ones which mean a lot to me , and some whom I dislike for some reason , also she knows whom to approach to complain about me and take my updates, if any 😉
Attempt lying to her, and you will be caught sooner or later.. Because she will go to the depth of it and find out. 😉 She is the most patient human on this planet , as she handles everything and me particularly, so well !!
A Mom is a best manager , no MBA degree or business experience will make anyone as efficient , reliable and quicker than her. She manages everything from kitchen to every member , also will be highly organized and keeps track of all the things without using any technology. In terms of time management and negotiation also, no one can beat her. I can’t even imagine being on time to college without her ( I am a pampered child 😉 )
No food can replace the taste of a mother’s food. A mother is a multi talented and multi tasking personality, she is a cook , a manager, a teacher, a consultant , a bestfriend and for me , a fashion designer, the best hang-out partner and even gossip partner 😉 and what not…
As my mom says ” Maa ki mamta tum tab hi samjhoge jab tum Maa Banoge” ( You will only realize what motherhood is , when you yourself will become a mother )
We always value things more, when we lose them , or when we know it’s not going to be the same any more. No, its not my college farewell I am talking about, still have an year for it… Well , where most of my friends are attending their college farewell parties, my class people and me are worried about our class not being the same any more . We will be splitting up according to our MBA specializations . For 4 years , we have been together , faced every difficulty, every situation together, had fun together, also made fun of everyone, and even bitched together 😉 🙂
Never we realized when the “initial so many groups” from first year, merged together , into one class, one family !! There was a time when our class was an epitome of groupism . Things changed, situations changed, people changed, and with time , there came unity, the feeling of togetherness among us.
One major reason , I believe in  bringing this unity is Class room 75 and our management professors and rules. We were so busy with some submission or some assignment that we started spending most of time in class. College to us , meant Class room no 75. That class, became our library , canteen , lounge , everything !! 😉 🙂 That was time when the groups gelled up, people came out of the so called “group boundaries.” The 30 minute lunch break rule did something good for us 😉 🙂
We are so used to the class, same people sitting in their almost fixed places. Everyone of us, are special in their own way , and we together made the class complete – some who always came late, some who always kept asking questions , well there are some who taught professors instead 😉 , Some who always made us laugh , some angry ones, and few who always wanted “Mass Bunk” and “Chuttttii” (Holiday). The active people of the class who made the lectures interesting…. And then there is one girl who tied everything , everyone together, our beloved CR. She made sure everything is in place, and everyone is happy 🙂
We are all our true selves when together, we can express ourselves without any inhibitions, and can do the craziest of things. Its not going to be the same any longer, but change is the only constant thing in this world. One class , or not , we will always be together, endless Whatsapp chats, Snapchats , calls , meetings , plans will always be on 🙂
As some people would say , “We got the Swag ” and will always have it 🙂
Indian wedding is not just a life changing event , but a huge project. With all phases of initiation, planning, execution and closure !! The whole of last month, I was actively involved in Project Shaadi (wedding) of my brother and cut-off from college work and biosphere too !!
Everything starts as soon as the dates are finalized. Initial planning , venue, time ,etc . And as the months come closer , everyone is busy shopping , for various events ! Not only the bride or bridegroom’s family, but all other guests and invitees start preparing for it. As many dresses one buys, will be less for a proper big fat Indian wedding. 😉
Huge amount of planning goes into a wedding, guest lists, menu, which dress to wear on which day, return gifts and what not !! So many lists , drafts and then final lists.
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With so many customs ,events and days, I was always reminded of Chetan bhagat’s line from Two States – “In India wedding is not just the union of two individuals but two families”. Which is indeed very true, particularly when the two families are of different culture . A high amount of risk is associated with a wedding too, like meeting time constraints, managing food , proper following of customs…
Sangeet, an evening of songs, dance and dinner requires separate planning and preparation. Its the most fun filled night. My brother’sangeet went very well and I am glad he enjoyed it fully.. 🙂
THE day is very hectic, as it is the final execution of all those plans and preparations. After dancing one full night just before the wedding day, it becomes very difficult to stay fresh throughout 😉
Proper coordination and communication is needed in such events. The most awaited part of a North Indian wedding is the baarat (procession) , in which everyone dances their hearts out. And immediately after reaching the bride’s place, we are supposed to be fresh and pose for photos.
I was so sweaty after baarat that I looked drunk in reception, still had to keep smiling for photos;-)
Finally, the wedding, the auspicious moment, for which all these days and months preparation takes place arrives. The union of two individuals with 7 promises for life takes place with the blessings of all.
However complicated and long process may it be of the wedding. Its an event, worth enjoying, cherishing throughout.
I will always remember each and every part ,planning and event of my brother’s wedding. I am glad for the constart support of my friends too. It would have been impossible without them to manage stuff.
The shaadi hangover still remains till one week after the wedding.
Right now I am in the transition phase of resuming back to normal college life 😉 🙂
The feeling we get when something good happens , something unexpected, which we never thought of, but then it seems that it was all written, written in the stars… Some power wanted it to happen. Last week I was reflecting on litte things and incidences which are linked in such a way that they seemed to be destined. Some call it coincidence, some call it destiny.
Think about this, you met a person few months back, which you weren’t even friends with, eventually becomes your bestfriend in a short span of time … It happened with me, my bestfriend and I, believe that it was our destiny to meet, to become great friends. Ever since we have come in contact, similar things happen with us, there is always some common factor in almost every situation.. Similar project, similar trimester results, ( toppers 😉 )similar research area, and now internship in the same company!! Nothing could be better than this..
I am glad we became friends…closest and best of all.. Maybe it is true, it was just written… It was Destiny..
There are two sides , to every situation, every thing , and even every person. We cannot get everything at the same time too. While there is something about any situation or incidence which makes us happy , there is something in the same situation that disappoints us. Its upto us to keep the balance.
In the last two weeks, there were some things which made me very happy with myself. I am keeping up with most of my resolutions, eating healthy, trying to control anger and better time management. I am taking conscious efforts to maintain my calm . My class had organized an awards night in the first week of this month. I won the “Most changed for the Good” and the “Angriest Person Award”
Even though I have controlled my anger to some extent, I am still the angriest person ;). But after receiving this, I am taking efforts to be known only for the positive side, – The changed me, the person who stays happy and keeps everyone around her happy 🙂 I am very thankful to everyone who supported me and helped me in this effort of mine . Thankful even to all of them of considered that I can never change , they are just an inspiration for me . Also , I am really sorry to all of the people who were hurt because of my temper.
While I am happy about my anger management , I am disappointed as I don’t write much these days. Will be working on it though. I will exercise more regularly. And will give more time to myself.
Praks The Explorer 