A Memorable Sunday

Yesterday was a day filled with emotions,  of all kinds,  happiness, anxiety,  joy,  sadness,  madness and what not. After a hectic first week of my fourth-year,  Sunday seemed so refreshing. It was an awaited weekend, but I never knew it would be so relaxing, in all ways.

It was the best chaddhi buddies ( childhood friends) meet . My dearest childhood friend, is going to the US for her masters. We had planned a surprise farewell for her. She had no idea about who all are coming. We initially celebrated it the traditional way,  like all our childhood birthday parties used to be with cake, chips and chocolates 🙂 It reminded us of all the old parties 😉

Then we talked about all the crazy games we played,  some of the most memorable events, and other things like Pokemon 😉 I even gifted her a Pikachu tshirt painted by myself

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As kids we always wondered that when we will grow up,  be in separate parts of the world,  will we be friends forever. Yes we remained friends,  20 years of friendship,  as old as we are.

Times have changed now,  from playing all day,  now we discuss about our future,  our problems, and other serious stuff. But I am sure,  our friendship would be as beautiful as it had been in the other phases of our friendship.

Whatever happens,  the brilliant innocence we have when we all are together will always remain with us.  Somethings never change… Rightly said 😉

– Straight from My heart, 
Prakriti

Unavoidable Changes

The last genuine holidays of my student life ended . College started from Monday. I never imagined it would be so difficult for me to resume back to normal.

My daily travelling routine from Navi Mumbai to Mumbai started, I am used to it.  But getting up early and taking 7 09 train was something I did after 6 months.  I din’t feel like going on Monday. I was sad for the holidays were over. Not that I din’t enjoy them, travelling,  trekking, bird watching, painting , writing,  meeting friends, I did everything I love. But there was a feeling I will not get the amount of me-time I used to get. My mom had to literally throw me out of the house.  😉

Somehow I reached college. I was missing my library group too, and was reminded of those days when we used to sit and have fun together,  all of us. Then there was an orientation program,  where we were told to change ourselves as we have entered a PG program now. We are supposed to be mature and disciplined now !! And no late comers allowed in class,  not even 5 minutes. In fact there was a guideline mentioning to reach class 5 minutes before!! 

The second day was a little better. I got my regular direct train but was disappointed to when I found that many of my train friends had stopped travelling by it. 😦  They all used to be a part of my life… Seeing and meeting them left my day incomplete. The one and a half hour journey never seemed long when all of us were present.

Yesterday only management lectures  were there. This is another change , from being technical to going totally non technical. I liked the subjects and lectures too.  Nothing to note down,  just sit,  interact and discuss. Management seems so refreshing after studying all the technical subjects.

I was very happy after the last lecture, as it interested me.  But my happiness din’t last long as I realized trains got canceled due to continuous heavy rains!! 😉

Hope I will get uses to the all the changes soon.  I have to and I know I will very soon.  Anyway change is an unavoidable part of life.  The sooner we accept it,  the better it is!

-Straight from my heart,
Prakriti

Golden Words of Father

Even a short conversation can have a significant impact on your life,particularly when a person with great experience and knowledge is involved in it. This is about such a life-changing conversation I had yesterday.

I had promised myself that before the end of these holidays, I would try to know and explore myself better. Hence , I approached the Counselling Centre of St Xaviers college. I gave the Preference test and Career interest test there. Father Terry, the Director of counselling centre conducted it and he had called me yesterday for the evaluation’s discussion .

Initially he explained me the results of Career Interest Inventory and Personality Evaluation, he stated clearly, the results just show what your interests and preferences are, the results are just the compilation of what you are totally as a person. The counselling session gave me many lessons and moments to cherish . I am trying to narrate some of them, some of the golden words:

  • Confusion is not a problem: It’s human nature to be confused. We may like something now,but dislike it sometime later. We are confused about our choices, decisions, and it’s a very common dialogue, “I am confused in life”.Well ,it’s just normal and nothing bad about it.
  • Don’t feel inferior to others: Love and respect yourself.You may not be perfect,neither be good in everything. Every one has their own capabilities and talents.
  • Don’t Be Positive,Be Realistic !!: In contrary to the usually preached sayings and proverbs , like ” Always Be positive”, “Be Optimistic always”, Father believes it’s better to be realistic. Life will not always be good to you,there are ups and downs. Be prepared for the bad times. Accept failures, moreover, be practical. If we always keep thinking JUST positively, we may end up living in a hypothetical world where everything is good.
  • Be Respectful: Care and respect not only yourself, but others too. Respect every’s individual’s opinion. All suggestions/opinions may not please you, but you may get some useful information too.
  • Be Assertive: In your behavior and communication, be assertive. Feel free to express your feelings, know your rights, and control your anger. Don’t repress, but talk in a reasonable manner.
  • Make Mistakes: One of the ending words of the conversation “Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, You will learn something from them “. 

 

I am glad I had the opportunity to meet him, and discuss my views with him too. I will try to bring the necessary changes in my life. The conversation must have lasted around 20 minutes,in those 20 minutes I learnt many things; This proves Experience matters a lot.

Either you will be happily successful or unhappily successful ,it’s upon you,to choose your way . There is nothing like happily unsuccessful, because if you are happy, your life is a success indeed. 🙂

-Straight From My Heart ,

Prakriti :).

From Strangers to Best friends…

The well known proverb “First impression is the best impression” ; may not be true always,especially in friendship .The first impression of anyone can be quite deceiving. I had a bad impression of almost all of the people who are now my closest and great friends . Being judgmental before the start of friendship or any other relation will just give us regrets.

Sometimes it takes many years to know people , whereas there are situations when we tend to know each other so much in a very short period of time, that it seems we have known each other since ages. It is rightly said that it’s not the age of the relation which makes it strong, but the heart to heart connections and the desire to know, understand and care each other is what makes it ever-lasting.

People who din’t meant anything to me two years ago, now mean a lot to me. When I joined college, I was not a library student at all, I used to spend most of my free time in the canteen with my classmates. I din’t do much during the after-hours of college, and rushed indeed as I had to travel one and a half hour or I had NGO work. With the beggining of second trimester of second year, my college life started changing. I started spending most of the time in the college library. I made a new friend and soon few of our mutual friends became great buddies. We all were different, belonged to different batches, but we sat nearby in library. Conversations started and soon we were known as the ” Library Group ” .

Out of the Library group members, 4 were my seniors, two my batch mate, ( one of them left the group later) and one my junior. I realized I started hanging with this group more than my classmates. Even our branches were different, the only thing common was library.. Yes we bonded over spending time in library,sounds strange but it’s true.

Soon we started going out too, initially to eat Panipuri 🙂 ( We all love Pani puri 😉 )
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Then later we made plans for each and everyone’s birthdays, or just roam around. In a short period of time we had so much of affection between us. We helped each other in assignments, even though we were unaware of the subjects !!

Our likes, dislikes, interests matched. I started loving college more day by day. No matter from what time our lectures would be scheduled, we reached college, library particulary early in the morning without fail. All our pending assignments, writing work was done there, and as we were in a group, it was never a pain. We finished our works fast so that we could chat later. I stayed late in college. My class people noticed that all my assignments were completed before time, and I was always the first to complete them. Thanks to the library group.

We had endless group chats on Whatsapp, “Hey who all are free? ” , ” I am in lib” ,” come in library” some of the most common sentences of our chats 🙂 😉 .
The friendship wasn’t professional, as we were attached emotionally too. Even if one would be free, the person was supposed to wait for the others till they are done for the day. In short our day was incomplete without the seven of us sitting in library. 🙂

We din’t realize how time went so fast. It seemed we knew each other since birth, so strong our bonding had become. Now, the four seniors of the group are graduate. The group is shattered. It won’t be the same now. I would miss those ” Where are you? ” , ” when will you be free ” and all other whatsapp messages, the panipuri, outings, and everything. The three of us can still meet and will be meeting, but the incompleteness will always be there. I am glad we met, and it is not the end. We will always be friends, friends forever. Whenever I will enter college and then library I will be reminded of them and those days, all of us sitting together. But I have to accept their absence. There are still two years of my college life.

I never thought we would be such great buddies. In fact my first impression was that we are so different and would never be good friends. I ignored that thought and thankfully wasn’t judgemental about any of them; I would have missed a lot, and a beautiful chapter of my life din’t exist. And as we have promised we will always be friends..and there will be Dosti Forever.

– Straight from my heart,
Prakriti

Focus On Yourself …

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In the race of life, the so-called race, we tend to ignore the most important individual, that is YOU. Yes , this post is about the need of focusing and caring about yourself. Majority of us are so busy in competing with one another, or just comparing yourself with someone else. But if we leave everyone aside, and think about our personal growth, our satisfaction, interests and desire, and rather compete with yourself, we would be a better individual.

The first step in developing yourself as a better person would be to Love yourself . Whatever you are,however you are, just love yourself. Not everyone is perfect. If one doesn’t love oneself, then it’s stupid to expect others to respect you. But don’t live in a hypothetical world, where you are perfect and you feel there is no scope for improvement.!!

The other most important thing is to Know Yourself, your likes, dislikes , interests. Many people reading this would be thinking , well everyone knows themselves.. No it is not true. We end up many times knowing ourselves wrongly, and try to be satisfied with it. Maybe that’s why we end up making wrong decisions , and having regrets in life, think about it.

Some people love commenting , discussing, and even criticizing someone else’s life, I believe they are the saddest and most jobless people in the world. Every person is different, you should respect their opinions and way of living. Instead that time can be used in self-development.

I have read many blogs about heart-breaks, spoiled relationships, wastage of time in getting over one’s ex and similar stuff. When in a relationship too, focus on yourself. I am not telling to be selfish, and leave your relationships aside, but don’t lose yourself in the process of maintaining the relation. I believe if a person really loves you, he/she would never want you to ignore yourself and just think about him/her.

Spend time with yourself daily, it sounds weird , but it is very important to keep yourself asking whether you are satisfied, happy with your life , or a decision in particular. Enhance your good qualities, and try diluting the bad ones. Try new things, take challenges, Explore Yourself . Do one thing everyday which not only makes you happy,but also defines you as an individual. Cultivate your passions, which may be lost somewhere, due to responsibilities or the fast-paced life, find them , and don’t let them go. As the saying goes, ” Life is too short to live with regrets” , Take time and Focus on Yourself. 🙂 🙂

– Straight from My Heart,

Prakriti

 

What goes Around comes Around

In today’s world, where people believe everyone is selfish,uncaring and preoccupied, there are still few who love to help, care and console. This is about a new lesson I learnt yesterday.

I am among the ones who believe that everyone is good if you are good.I always try to see and appreciate the positive side of an individual. Also,  I trust people easily too . Many of my friends shout at me,  and tell me, “not everyone is good ” . I just smile back and reply “not everyone is bad” . Many consider me mad and stupid because of this, and most of the people reading this may be thinking the same.

Yesterday I was in real trouble, I had gone to collect my internship certificate, I worked in a government organization and it took a lot of time to get ready. Finally I got it, from there I went to my college to meet my sir. I met one of my friend there, my handbag was too small for the certificate so I asked him to keep it safely in his bag. While going back,  my friend and me shared the auto. We got down near the station. He headed for his classes, and I took my train.  As soon as my train started I realized I din’t had my certificate. I got scared as I thought I took it from my friend and left it in the auto,I was not sure though . I blanked out for few seconds. Government procedures take time,  and I got the certificate after a long time. Plus,  I din’t had my phone.

Seeing my panic -stricken face one lady in train asked me if she could help. I asked for her phone to make an urgent call. I called my friend, he din’t answer. She insisted me to try again,  I did so, but in vain.

I got down at next station and returned to Andheri ( the station where my college is,  and my friend’s classes too ) . I went to the PCO and kept trying his number. The shopkeeper of the PCO also asked me what the matter was, I asked him whether he knew about any CCNA classes.  He told me there are many classes nearby and tried other shopkeepers but no one had any idea.

My idea was to first confirm from my friend whether he had the certificate and then accordingly take action. But he wasn’t picking up and I din’t knew where his classes were. I just remembered it was in some building near station. I went to the nearest building and enquired. The receptionist of one of the classes helped me,  and came along with me,  to check in other classes in that building too. I saw three girls near that building,  and requested one of them for the phone to make a call.  Again no reply I got.

Tears rolled down my eyes. How can I be so irresponsible? I was wondering. The girls noticed the tears, calmed me down and consoled. I explained them the whole scene,  they first brought me out of my panic mode. They accompanied me to another building where classes are held. The manager there also helped me and offered water. Those girls were already late for their classes,  still were helping me. I thanked all and told I shall manage so that they could get back to their works.

Finally I got my certificate. It was with my friend only,  he received the call during the break. It was a very hectic and strange day.  I kept running from one coaching classes to another like a lost,  helpless girl.  I felt weak at a point of time.

But at the end of the day,  I just smiled. I was thinking about the people who helped me,  the lady in the train,  the receptionist, the three girls,  the manager of other classes,  the PCO uncle for his concern.  They left their works,  and took time for me to listen and help. They made me realize that the world is not that bad a place. I was touched and glad. I was reminded how once I helped a lady in train , how I consoled a girl crying in washroom,  and many other incidences. I have always helped people,  I love to. This time I was in their place,  I needed help,  and received it too.

Though strangers,  I will always have a special place and sense of respect for them in my heart. Moreover,  I learned an important lesson…Whenever you lend a helping hand to anyone, someday,  you will receive help in trouble too. Truly and blissfully experienced this.  All the blessings count, if you are good,  people will be good.  I wasn’t wrong.  Ultimately,  what goes around comes around. Be good,  do good,  help all and you will find reasons to smile… 🙂 🙂

– Straight from My heart,
Prakriti

A Letter From Mother Nature

Dear Humans,

Day by day, your interference in my life is making me suffer a lot. Most of my charm is degrading now. Forests are being converted into concrete jungles, all the water bodies are getting polluted, many species are getting endangered, the reason being your activities, greed and misbehaviour with me.

Why don’t you understand, my beauty is at its peak when untouched by humans. Some of you love me, care for me and want to preserve every part of me, whereas there are many of you who don’t care about me. Even though I am hurt, and dishearten I still and will always shower gifts on you. I will leave you captivated with my scenic beauty, and I can give you vivid memories to cherish. You may find me fascinating with so many different forms and with my diverse children. I do not show you timely my anger, disappointment and sadness.  But deep inside, I am crying.

If I keep on complaining about your misbehaviour, I will be exhausted. Hence I would take a simple example and make you understand my emotions. The Kharghar waterfalls, or what is called as PandavKada, in Navi Mumbai, a few weeks ago was a place for nature lovers and a few monsoon revellers. As soon as people would start the journey towards the falls, they became mesmerized. You people realized the need for peace, greenery, beauty, and freedom. I can bet that my admirable views made you forget all your sorrows, and brought out the child within you, filled with joy, adventure and fun.
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But now, the forest department and a few other associations came together and started exploiting me. They have blocked my natural flow using rocks and started tickets for entry on the name of security. It’s great they are successful too in their motive, attracting vendors and stalls. Very soon I will become dirty and all you would see is plastics and other garbage. Within a week they collected Rs 1.5 lakhs. Those people made a business out of me, and I am pretty sure that money will not be used for my benefits, or for enhancing me. I am what I am you people cannot change me, only destroy my innocence gradually.

Many of you understand and sympathize with me. Some are fighting for me too. I am glad for it. Whatever it is I am still beautiful, I am not afraid of humans, just angry and sad, hoping not to get deprived of my natural charm.

– Mother Nature.

The Joy of Giving… My NGO experience

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Before I could realize,  I was done with my first year at college. It seemed the year went very fast,one trimester got over and then the second and third!!  Travelling,  studying, socializing, thats all I did. Hardly, I must have done something for myself, except for dance classes.
I got a nice three month break after my first year. Many of my friends were making plans, some planning to intern ( I found the idea meaningless, as just after completion of first year,  there is hardly anything learned to apply!) Well,  I was just excited, my sister had come, and these are the same holidays during which I turned into a maasi. So,  I spent the first two months in excitement only,  giving time to my sister and tried stuff like t-shirt painting.

I wanted to do something good before the start of my second year.  Something which will make me satisfied; I din’t wanted my summer break to go waste.

I decided to volunteer for an NGO. As I had recently shifted to Navi Mumbai, I had no ideas of nearby Ngos. Justdial came to rescue.Enthusiastically,  I started visiting all NGOs from the list. But all it gave me was disappointment. Most of the buildings were just named as some NGO or foundation , or trust/aashram with no activity going on. Those were set up just for the benefit of tax relaxation.

Then I contacted YUVA,  Youth for Unity and Voluntary Action,with some hope. I called them initially to know whether they were looking for volunteers or interns. Surprisingly,  I got positive response and was called for a meeting with Mr Anil Igle, the media coordinator. I was very excited and eager to start working.  They asked me few questions, my interests,and why I was interested to work with them; so that a convenient project can be assigned.

I was a part of project called CLC ( Community Learning Centre) . As a part of it I was supposed to teach children of construction site workers. My first day went good, I introduced myself, took their introductions and played few games with them.

It was difficult for me initially,as the children were of different age groups. I decided to divide them in groups according to their age and teach them separately.

The children came from a background,  where there was no atmosphere of education. Their parents keep migrating,hence even if they learn something,they tend to forget. Lack of interest and support hinder their educational growth.

The need and importance of education was a topic unaware, and strange to them. My first objective was to make them realize why they need to be literate. I gave the first 2 3 days for this. Some found my thoughts agreeable,  while some were very stubborn and considered me mad!!

Gradually, I started teaching them things according to groups. I laid stress on language and maths,  as these are the things they need to apply in real life. I gave them little work for home also. It gave me immense satisfaction and inner peace when they showed interests. I gave them sufficient breaks between studies,  and played educational games,  told them moral stories too.
Creative things like drawing, painting, were also included in my daily targets.

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Members and employees of the NGO supported me a lot, and gave me ideas also. Atmosphere there was awesome, close to nature,  peaceful,  with very good hearted and thoughtful people around. I got acquainted with people who have devoted their whole lives for the betterment of society; with no self -gain or greedy motive behind it. They chose social work as their profession; because they wanted to do it, not for gaining publicity or making money; but for the satisfaction of joy of giving. Respect for them truly.

All these factors made me love the place. The class timings for children were 11 to 3 pm,  but I stayed there till 5. 30 or 6 pm.  During the after hours,  I helped the members of CLC project.  I made few flash cards for the children to teach them about different animals and birds.

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I spent a lot of time in library,reading books. I helped the library incharge Mrs Charushila in sorting of books according to age groups. I assisted Charu in ‘ Read to Grow ‘program where the concept was to promote reading in municipal and Zila Parishad schools so that children don’t quit school. Most of the students left school,as they din’t wanted to study, or for a stupid reason, boredom. So, we took reading cards with colourful picture stories. We also made them play games and organized puppet shows.

Then Mr Vinod,another NGO employee, and member of CLC project, mentioned about Inspire Awards. It aimed to make students of Zila Parishad school aware of science and technology and inspire them with new ideas. When he came to know I am an engineering student and from science background, he included me too.

Only four days we had for the main event, time was less but something had to be done. Meeting was called with school principal, my idea got approved and we started working.

There is a settlement amidst the Kharghar hills, OA camp. I went there with Vinod sir. The settlement was beautiful, and the way there also ; partly because of the weather. I liked going there also, even though I got the opportunity for a few days. Vinod sir and I represented YUVA ( OA Camp) and it made me feel proud. The principal, gram panchayat all liked the project, considering the time constraints.

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It was for one and a half month I went there daily ,I followed up whenever I had time. My volunteering at YUVA taught me many things like

– Teaching is not an easy job, you need lots of patience for it.

– To see a person smile, and to know you contribute something for that smile, gives ultimate joy and internal satisfaction.

– Not everything is done to get returns ; social work and charity has a value.
And many other things..

I remember each and every moment spent with the kids, and at the NGO, also with the people there. Each day was a new day, with new targets, new tasks and different challenges.
My personal advice to each and every friend of mine to experience the joy of giving…

Straight from my heart,
Prakriti

Truly Special

Some people leave a remarkable mark behind them,  even in a short period of time.
I was going to collect my internship certificate from the organization yesterday. I was already late,  it was nearly lunch time,  I wanted to reach as soon as possible.
A shuttle arrived before I could reach the shuttle stop,  I ran and jumped in.  But I wasn’t sure it would stop or pass by the division I was supposed to go. I asked the lady sitting beside me,  but I got no reply. She kept looking out of her window. I felt very astonished,  how can someone simply ignore a person,  that too in need of help. I know people are lost in morning blues,  or tensed about reaching their offices on time,still atleast people can answer a simple yes or no question!?!
I assumed the lady has some serious attitude problem,  I still stubbornly asked her again, “Excuse me,  .. excuse me” I repeated,  but in vain.

I was wondering why would someone do like that;she should think that one day she might be in trouble took,  she may need help too.
The third time I patted her hand before asking this time. She turned towards me,  and gestured that she cannot hear. She was deaf!! Still she asked me where I wanted to go, using sign language. I explained by using slow action of my lips. She could understand the words by seeing my lips move. She guided me also, and explained the bus route too. Throughout the short journey, she kept showing me through signs, the bus route. She confirmed where I wanted to go, and assured she will tell me beforehand when to get down.
My destination came and I got down thanking her. I started walking,  the bus passed by, I looked inside ,she gave me a beautiful smile, and waved. 🙂

I felt very bad I troubled her. Also,  I cursed myself for assuming things about her.  I never actually jump on to conclusions, but the way I was being judgemental yesterday,disappointed me.I promised myself, I would never do so, for any individual.
I would have never realized her disability until she expressed herself. The sense of confidence she had,her dignity commanded respect. It seemed she had no regret of her being deaf,she lives her life like a totally able person. She is, a truly special woman.

She gave me a very important lesson- how muchever unfair life is to you, it’s upto yourself how to live. Either by cursing or crying,  or living it with a smile always. Thankful to her, and to God, for this truly special meeting.

– Straight from my heart,
Prakriti
Keep smiling 🙂

The Unanticipated Result

The outcome of an unexpected result , is many more expectations, either by yourself, or by others. I have experienced this truly.

I was always a near-average student in school,more interested in cultural activities and sports than in studies. Neither did I ever stood in the ranker’s list nor was I among the scholars of my class.But, in the last exam of school life, the tenth standard boards,I get a meritorious score of 95%, leaving me, my parents,school and friends in shock !!

A never-a-ranker, average student , and one of the naughtiest girl,stands first in whole school, quite surprising !?! And this not so expected achievement led to a series of expectations….

My father started believing I am the most intelligent among by siblings, which wasn’t true at all.As a part of my family tradition, I was supposed to take up engineering as the profession. My dad enrolled me for IIT(Indian Institute Of Technology) coaching classes, where I got a splendid 60% discount on account of being a ranker.(These coaching institutes provide amazing scholarships and discounts, great marketing strategy )

On one place,I always dreamed of taking literature, or something like BMM or journalism as study options, and there I was ,attending IIT coaching classes.

It’s a very common notion,particularly in India,that getting in engineering line is equivalent to  job guarantee. As if engineering and medical are the only respectable career/study options.A study reveals over 82% engineers were unemployable in 2012, also India produces maximum number of engineers. If engineers make so much money,then India should have been one of the richest country,which is not at all the case.

I feel degree is not a measurement of knowledge,nor it will ensure enough money.Many people may end up doing something which is not at all related to their degrees !! And I am quite sure many of the people reading this(If you are from India) were forced to take up engineering/medical.

Well, I din’t get selected for IIT, quite obvious , as I din’t expect it too,also I din’t had the aptitude for it.I had given NMAT ,for the dual degree integrated program. MBA +Btech , hoping I will ultimately get a managerial profile ,and I will be following my family tradition too. I got a nice rank in NMAT and interview went good , hence got selected.

Not every outcome of my “unexpected result” was bad. I got the opportunity of representing India for the Student Exchange Program and was sent to Singapore for the same.I had the best week of my life there.

I was very anxious before joining college,wondering what kind of people I will meet,and whether I will manage studies and stuff. Initially I met very good people and soon became very good friends. We sat a lot in canteen,attended lectures,went for movies.Many lessons were also learnt during my first year, few of them are- not everyone is worth of your trust,secondly what and how people portray themselves to you,can be deceiving; and not everyone may think alike.

With time, I have realized,there are few people who are totally like me and will understand me,whereas some are in their own world. But still ,I don’t regret anything now, because I have enjoyed satisfactorily the first three years of my college life.

Let’s see where life takes me further , and what it has in store for me…

 

Thanks for reading,

Prakriti 🙂

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